I once again realize what friends are for. They are the ones that tell you what they think or feel, without hesitation, without holding back. It's what I need, plain and simple. They are the ones that look out for me if I don't - though in this case I'm pretty certain I wouldn't get caught in the trap called life again - and warn me when they feel I've lost it.
With that said, I've selected 13 interesting houses, that I'll be reviewing more in detail during the week. I hope to be able to go visit some within the next week or two, to see whether they are what I need, or not. If none of the places is what I need, or can afford, I'll just load up another batch and look around more. House are like girlfriends I suppose : you can take a look at many, yet not find one that really does it. But then, one day, one time, you'll just know you've hit gold and found one that fits you.
I'm forwarding most of the data to another e-mail address right now, so I can make a couple of calls tomorrow and on Tuesday.
Oh, the house in The Netherlands is still an option, though the term which the couple that has currently a bid on it has been extended with one week. More on that next week I suppose. I'm not putting my money down on it though and am actively for a new house. And girlfriend, but that's something entirely different. You don't go inputting data on a website to find the "perfect" or "affordable" match. If I had to though, here's my list :
Character : Witty, intelligent, likes humor, honest, open minded. Did I mention honest?
Physical : slim, tall, sexy, small breasts, lovely ass
Treats : non-smoker, kids welcome, enjoyable
While it may seem strange or even not masculine at all, I listed character before physical appearance. Character doesn't change, looks do. I take everything with a grain of salt and would rather live and be happy with a girl that lacks all of the physical appearance but has every single characteristic then the opposite. Oh, MILFS are welcome. I've learned first hand that children can be a very welcome addition to my life, and would love to include some again. On the other hand... they also make it ten times harder to let go if things go wrong. (Cries).
I'm not yet at a point where I can open up and be ready for someone new, the roller coaster has not yet stopped, I don't even see the end of the ride yet.
Even when you don't ask my advice I'll give it to you anyhow.
If you try now to find a fine house at the same moment as searching for a new girlfriend but both as a separate item you are blowing up both!
Better would be to find the girlfriend of your dreams who owns a property and if everything clicks buy in there. More direct: if you keep on making that combination I don't support you anymore, sorry!
kop op!
Everybody is free to support or not what they choose, and you shouldn't be sorry for that.
However, let it be clear that for the time being I'm not looking for a new girlfriend, but only for a new house and home. If I happen to find a girlfriend somewhere along the way, I wouldn't be sorry, but it's far from a priority. I'm not buying in anymore, ever, though once James Bond stated "never say never" and who am I to discuss with that guy?
I do know that I mentioned looking for a girlfriend, but that was part joke, part serious. I can't do both properly, that I know. It's time to think about myself now, and not about others (for once in my life).
First things first : settle myself down again and later - and I'm not putting any date on that - look around and hopefully meet someone with whom the connection is there.
I've lived, loved, and got hurt. Such is life, but life is also a learning experience, and I've learned from it I'd like to think. Each and every time I experience life, a tiny bit of naivety is lost and replaced by common sense and a sense of self preservation. It won't make life (with me) easier, but it may help me keep focused and not carried away.
Shoulders back, chest out and shake that ass, baby ;)