As I was watching the new episode of Ka2's Open en Bloot - thanks for easy and freely available webstreams! - I had MTV on in the background. There ain't much other things on at 01h30 at night, you know, and then I noticed a song I didn't know yet : Jem's "Just a ride". To be honest, the song didn't really catch my attention - the TV volume was turned down substantially because I trying to follow the interviews in O&B - but the looks and image of Jem certainly caught my eye.
Unfortunately I can't find any good photographs online that catch the exact look of her in the clip, otherwise I'd post it here to show her hotness. The next song was by Anouk and even though I've got no clue as to what song it was, Anouk is always kinda hot with all her tattoos. Tattooed people rock ;)
Anyway, what was it I wanted to write? Ah, yes... I remember. What is "kinky" for you? How do you define it? I think it is very different for everyone and it probably even changes over time, but if you had to define it at right this moment, what would you answer? Secondly, has your kinkyness evolved over time? Because it seems that according to some people kinkyness is not only pushing your boundaries, but also going further each over time. I agree to a certain extend : when kinky becomes normal, it ain't kinky anymore, right?
Now, some people still have weird reactions I think. Let's take Elke Van Elderen (of "Ciao Bella" fame...) for instance. As the woman next to her said "I'm sort of single right now and I like flirting, with men as well as women", Elke kinda squeeked and moved over a little.
Even it was done jokingly, it shows little understanding of human nature if you ask me. If you as a man or woman meet someone of the different sexe, do you instanty assume they are going to jump you, ravish you, sex you up? Right, that's what I thought. You sicko's, you wish! ;)
Anyway, if you don't assume that with them, why would you think so when someone of the same sex says they're into same sex relationships? Is it because one doesn't expect it? Is it because you suddenly feel a possibility they are attracted to you? Do you feel your personal space is invaded? Help me understand, if you can. But I digress... we were talking kinky, right?
Is spanking kinky? Are strawberries kinky? Are handcuffs kinky? Is having sex in a public space kinky, or doing it when you know someone can watch? Is a photoshoot kinky? Are tattoos or piercings kinky? Are sextoys kinky? Are men in tight shorts kinky? Are women athletes kinky? I all of those can be kinky, but not all of them are kinky for me, nor are they possibly all kinky to you. It may even depend on your mood, but much depends on your peers and the society you grow up and live in.
When kinky becomes normal to you, it may not remain special, though others can still perceive it as perverse or "insane". I think that people who are open to new things are less judgemental.
Comments welcome (as always and if you feel like posting anonymously, you can do so).